A Confession

Photo: hands are placed on the back of a supline yogini
Sometimes another person can help disipate the stress that seaps into the back

Continuation of a one-year assessment of my yoga practice. You can see the first part of How Yoga is Changing My Life. [Originally written in 2006]

I am “outing” myself: I have suffered from depression since childhood, even though I did not know what to call my persistent, cyclical blues until 1993. When I turned 40, the depression started worsening — in another era it would be called a mid-life crisis or nervous breakdown. In a series of meltdowns, I lost jobs and burned through life savings and a home. I layered on multiple coats of guilt and shame on top of what was happening to me. The condition made me incapable of writing and critical thinking. For someone who lived off writing and whose very self-definition was based on being a writer, it was a bitter realization. In 1996, my psychiatrist told me that he could not promise that I would ever write professionally again — time to look for another career.

If it weren’t for my family, I would have been destitute. I lived in my parent’s basement for 16 months. My kids stopped their university studies so that they could contribute to supporting the household. [Thanks, Stephanie]

A case of refractory depression is a very humbling experience — you can only focus on now. You look back on all the decisions and failures driven by your illness, the disappointments and the pain, the suffering to your loved ones. You have to release all that because there is nothing you can do now to change that. The future becomes something distant, and impossible to plan because you cannot guarantee that you can perform. You are stripped down to now, the present. You just have to take one day at a time and try to build on it. It also makes you very selfish because you have your hands full resolving your own problems, and can’t take on other people’s problems.

Relief, not a cure

Get deep into the posture during Brian Kest’s master class at Thrive Yoga, October 2010

I cannot say that yoga “cured” my depression — relief came from my medication and an extended convalescence that stretched over nearly a decade. I tried several drugs, trial and error, until my psychiatrist found the right combination, and the drugs required years to pull me out of a deep hole. I had also tried other treatments, like regular exercise, psychoanalysis, prayer. I came back slowly, started a new career, found a new employer, got a graduate degree, discovered that writing was still my calling — things that seven years ago I thought unattainable.

But there is always the lingering fear that depression will come back. It has scarred my mind and body, quite literally: I assume that things will turn out badly or that certain goals are beyond reach. Like a diabetic or a HIV carrier, I consider myself to be a chronic depressive and I can relapse.

Relapse?

Early last year, I felt depression raising its head again. I was close to panic. One night I got on a mat and things started to click. Although I had read Jon Kabat-Zinn and Rodney Yee, played around with yoga in the basement, it had seemed more like a workout than a response to my problem. Suddenly, it all started to make sense, and I was at ease. And then I felt the peace of savasana — overwhelming, purging, releasing.

I started a search for help. I read the book, Yoga for Depression: A Compassionate Guide to Relieve Suffering Through Yoga by Amy Weintraub. That lead me to yoga classes, the Art of Living Foundation and a daily practice of pranayama and meditation. In my first, tentative classes, I almost felt as if I would break mentally.

What is so good about yoga, pranayama and meditation? They are empowering and allowed me a change in attitude, from victim to warrior. They give me tools and techniques that I can use to help myself. When I had to rely solely on medication and therapists, I feel helpless, at the mercy of an unpredictable, faulty, chemical chain reaction underway in my nervous system. I also learn that it’s the daily practice that gets results; no matter how modest at first over time they pay big dividends.

Only my family and a few other people know that I have this problem. I never wanted word to spread at my work place because the knowledge of my illness might affect the perception of my performance. I hated writing about my depression. I did not want to dignify or reward this beast that had soiled my life by letting it be the focus of my writing.

A new way of seeing

Photo: a woman with her forearms placed on the mat, legs in a deep lunge
Opening the hips

Yoga has released from my feeling of bitterness and guilt by giving me a fresh, expansive vision of my plight and human kind’s. I am not the target of dark forces in my psyche or my body chemistry. Depression is just my personal, unique manifestation of the broader condition of human suffering. Yoga is about relieving human suffering. The yogic sages knew how to transform suffering into a liberating process by bringing mind, body and spirit back into balance. Because I am scarred by decades of depressive thinking, I want to address those issues and rebuild my life on an affirmative platform — instead of a victim, I want to be proactive. In order to transform myself, I have to face it frontally and work through it, just as we would with resistance in an asana.

Why am I making this public declaration now? Depression has defined me as a person. In my previous posting on “How has yoga changed your life?,” I found myself trying to write around my depression in explaining why yoga has become so important for me. This past month, Kelly McGonigal has had us reflect on purification. I have come to realize that this confession is about purifying myself and my self-perception so that I can move on to healing these scars (samskaras in Sanscrit) that have been seared into my mind over decades.

Other Resources

When I felt depression coming back a few years ago, I started searching for information about how to manage my condition through yoga or meditation. I found a couple of books and lots of information on the Web. I am posting the most valuable links below.

  • Emotional Alchemy is an interesting book that deals with using meditation to treat mood disorders. Tara Bennett-Goleman, M.A., is a psychotherapist who practice Buddhist meditation and has trained at the Cognitive Therapy Center of New York.
  • Yoga for Depression: A Compassionate Guide to Relieve Suffering Through Yoga by Amy Weintraub: Don’t be misled by the title, the book is really about yoga’s capacity to energize the spirit and restore balance. Yoga gives you tools to manage the imbalances better. Other opinions about this book from experienced yoga teachers can be found at YogaLifeStyle.com.
  • Yoga Journal The Natural Prozac: The yoga mat is a good place to turn when talk therapy and antidepressants aren’t enough. Amy Weintraub wrote this article, originally appearing in the November/December 1999 issue.
  • Yoga Journal Better than Prozac?: Yoga and meditation offer some of the same benefits as antidepressants without the side effects. Amy Weintraub wrote this article for the July/August 2001 issue.
  • Yoga Journal Sitting with Depression: Depressed people think they know themselves, but maybe they only know depression. Mark Epstein wrote this piece, appearing in the September/October 2000 issue. He has many books.
  • Yoga Journal Emperor of Air: Behind The Art of Living Foundation is Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, whose followers compare him with Krishna and Jesus. But Shankar doesn’t seem too concerned with fanfare or fortune, he just wants to keep spreading his simple message that all you need to get on the path of well-being is breath. Allen Salkin in the September/October 2002 issue of .
  • Yoga Journal Western Science vs. Eastern Wisdom: Some of the most extensive medical research on yoga therapy is being done in India, but will it ever bye accepted by Western medicine? By Timothy B. McCall, M.D. in the January/February 2003 issue of Yoga Journal. You can also check out his book, Yoga as Medicine: The Yogic Prescription for Health and Healing, which Yoga Journal published.

3 thoughts on “A Confession

  1. So are u cured now? I really want to find the balance in my life im only 27 and i want to start doing yoga. Sometimes i feel helpless. Thank gou for sharing your story with us

    1. The human condition is dynamic, and what we’ve labelled as disorders shift and change. I’ve come out of my worst depressive episode, and yoga played a big role in giving me a sense of gaining control of my life.

  2. I’ve been dealing with depressive disorder for almost two years ever since my hubby Jeff died, and one of the ways I’ve tried to heal is by finding out as much about depression as I can. I’m presently leading a discussion group for women who are suffering depression, and I came upon your article while browsing for materials to speak about in this thursday’s meeting. I don’t know how it works for other people, but for me, awareness is empowering, and the more I understand the nearer I get to feeling normal again.

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